I’m not going to waste your time debating whether it should definitely be considered cheating if your boyfriend or girlfriend kisses someone else. Or if they sleep with someone else. Or if they write a lot of personal emails to someone other than you.
Cheating is more about secrecy, intimacy, and violating expectations than it is about specific actions. What matters is what matters to you. You will call it cheating if you feel like your partner is sharing things (thoughts, feelings, or bodily fluids) with someone else that they should be primarily or exclusively sharing with you.
10 Signs That Your Partner May Be Cheating
So you’re wondering if something is going on with your partner. Maybe there has been a noticeable change in his or her behavior or words. Maybe they’re talking about a new “friend” in a way that makes you nervous. Maybe you can’t even put your finger on what it is, but something just seems “off.”
Whatever is really going on, if you spot these signs in your long distance relationship, you should be careful.
1. They seem to be perpetually busy
if you both are enjoying easy life and talking to each other daily and suddenly after few days your partner shows you how busy he or she is without any reason and whenever you ask, your partner gives you some shitty reasons then there is something wrong with your partner.
2. He or she is often unreachable
It’s unreasonable and funny to expect someone you are dating to immediately return every text or to answer every phone call. However if your partner is often unreachable without a decent reason (and their phone battery dying every second day is not a decent reason) you might legitimately wonder what’s up.
3. They seem rushed and harried whenever you contact them–they are only relaxed when they contact you, at a time that suits them
Whenever you call your partner, he or she often get nervous because he or she might be with someone at that time or might be someone is with your partner so your partner will always try to contact you when he or she is alone at home.
4. They won’t acknowledge your relationship on Facebook or in other public ways.
Perhaps they are simply wary of putting personal information on the internet. However, if they use this excuse with you but are active and open on social media channels in other ways, I would question whether they’re telling you the truth.
5. They over-react when you ask them whether something is wrong
If you sincerely and calmly approach your partner about something that you’re worried about or that makes you uncomfortable, and he or she over-reacts with criticism, accusations, or questions of their own (e.g., “you’re so paranoid” or “you’re crazy for thinking like that”) then something is wrong.
most of the people over react when you ask something that makes you worry because they actually are doing that things. A good relationship involves caring about one another’s thoughts and feelings and trying to talk things out and resolve issues together.
6. They are often unavailable to take your call on a moment’s notice
It is understandable if your partner cannot generally take your calls during business hours, from their office, or while they are with clients. However, if your partner hardly ever picks up when you ring—no matter what time of day—something else might be going on.
7. They don’t listen.
You tell them about your day at work, and they give you an oh-so-subtle eye roll. You talk about your trip last weekend, and they can’t remember where you went, or that you even told them about it.
When you’re in an LDR, the small, even boring details matter. Since you can’t physically be together, the only thing keeping you close is communication. If they just don’t want to hear about what you made for dinner, or what show you’re into now, they could have something (or someone) else on their mind.
8. You know they have a history of cheating in past relationships
The fact that he or she has cheated in the past does not mean that they will cheat on you. However, do bear in mind that past behavior is one of the best predictors of future behavior.
9. Give An Excuse
Lately, he’s been full of excuses. If you ask him to turn on his webcam while the two of you are talking, he’ll come up with an excuse, such as he’s too tired or busy.
If you’re already begging him to hang out with you online, then it’s a warning sign he’s having an affair. Keep in mind that if he really misses you, he’ll spend time with you no matter how busy his schedule is.
10. Has Unpredictable Mood Swings
He’ll find reason not to talk to you. So he’ll either be angry instantly or be overly nice.
This is a red flag and should be treated seriously. This is especially true if he’ll say that he needs time to be alone by himself.